Goodbye 2013 … Hello 2014!!

As always, I’m ever so slightly late to the party with this one! I had the best of intentions to blog over Christmas and New Year but, to be honest, I had so much going on that I completely forgot!

HAPPY NEW YEAR FROM US!

HAPPY NEW YEAR FROM US!

So, Happy New Year one and all! For me, 2013 was definitely a mixed bag. It started off in the worst way possible for us, with the 2nd of January spent in the A&E of the local hospital with what felt like my whole world falling down around me. But from then on in, I felt like I finally found an inner strength to sort my life out and get back on the right track.

On April 25th 2013, I joined Slimming World. By far, this was the best decision I have made in a long time! Here I am now, 3 stone lighter and with a new found confidence that I don’t think I have ever had!

With this confidence, has come a fair few other positive changes in my life. I started this blog for one, and it reminded me how much I love writing. It has brought me so many fantastic opportunities and I can’t thank you all enough for continuing to read it! I’ve let it fall by the wayside over the past few months but I am hoping in 2014 I will be able to get back on track and build this blog into something I can be proud of and that you can all continue to enjoy reading!

 I have also (finally) returned to work and am absolutely loving it so far. It is not an amazingly paid job. It doesn’t have incredible prospects. But I look forward to going in every day and it doesn’t feel like a chore. Well, not yet anyway!  As much as I loved being at home with the boys, It is great to be back in an environment where I feel like I play an important professional part and have REAL LIFE ADULT CONVERSATIONS! It’s the small things.

I have also decided to return to study part time. I’m currently studying for my TEFL (teaching English as a foreign language) certificate with the hopes of at some point in the future going back to University and doing my teacher training. Until then, I am hoping to help out with a local charity who works with the children of European Immigrants, with the majority being Romanian, and helping them learn English and settle in to their new surroundings. Fingers crossed for that plan anyway!

What do I want in 2014? To have a happy year. To spend it watching my two boys grow and become even more mental. To have a “date night” with the hubby at least once a month. To laugh with my family as much as possible. To meet up with my friends more often. To get over my anxiety and live each day without constantly worrying about something silly (I’m a terrible worrier! I’ve constantly got that sick, anxious feeling in my stomach!)

Resolutions? Well, I’ve never been very good at sticking to these things. Or to anything, actually. But I do have a few:

  • To continue with my Slimming World journey and lose another 2.5 stone to get to target.
  • To complete my TEFL course and get my certificate.
  • To restart my driving lessons – that’s been a long 10 years coming!
  • To take part in my first ever 5k or 10k – even if I have to walk it!
  • To enjoy every minute of our first ever family holiday abroad in April!
  • To blog more often. At least twice a week. And write what I want to write. Not what I feel I HAVE to. Back to basics blogging.
  • On that note – to keep on top of my social media! I’ll pop all my links at the end of this post.
  • To get my YouTube set up and keep it going – any requests for videos or vlogs please feel free to comment below or email me! I will be uploading at least once a week (a Tuesday or Wednesday) with a Slimming World update.
  • To get my finances in order and start saving so we have some money behind us.

Overall, I just want to enjoy this year. I have so much to look forward to whether it be birthdays, holidays and one of my closest friends is getting married! It’s so exciting! It has all the makings of a great year! We’ve just got to smile and enjoy.

I hope your 2014 is filled with love, good health and happiness! I would love to know your plans for this year! What are your resolutions?

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Marriage – The Good, The Bad and The Extra Dress Size(s)!

So it’s not gonna be easy. It’s going to be really hard; we’re gonna have to work at this everyday, but I want to do that because I want you. I want all of you, forever, everyday. You and me… everyday.” 

Nicholas Sparks : “The Notebook”

Ten years ago, on the 16th of April 2003, with my best friend at the time in tow, I met up with the quietest boy in school outside the local chippy. Classy, I know. Even classier is that I remember exactly what i was wearing…. Adidas joggies and that bloody Topshop denim jacket (see the same jacket in action here: http://wp.me/p3hjKu-5q) I was such a catch. He leaned in for a kiss – with my best friend still standing right beside me, obviously – and managed to miss my face completely and land somewhere between my ear, my hair, and the window of the chippy.

This belter of a boy, you lovely folk, is now my husband.

Sometime's we are just too cool - even for each other.

Sometime’s we are just too cool – even for each other.

The scary thing is, from that moment where he kissed the chippy window, I knew I would marry him. (No standards at this point you see.) I knew that no matter what happened, this quiet, acne riddled, Berghaus jacket wearing teenager would one day be my husband. Fate, i suppose. Or karma.

Fast forward ten years through several break ups, a million tears, two babies (SURPRISE!) and a bloody amazing wedding…and here we are.  We are nearing the finish line of our first year of marriage. And how is married life?

Filled with daily threats of divorce…..(i joke…..maybe)

I love the security of being married; of being a MRS. I love knowing that I will be with this man forever – till death do us part (then i get a rest hopefully!). I love finally having the same surname as my two boys. I love dropping the “yes, my husband does that..” card into totally inappropriate sentences, just because I can. I love flashing my wedding ring at old women who judge me the minute they see me with the two boys.  I love proving people wrong – because we actually did make it. I love knowing that I married my best friend.

On the other hand…

I bloody hate sharing a bed. He sweats and snores and knowing this is forever gives a new-found respect and understanding to the 1950’s rule of separate beds. I hate how whatever money I spend has to be explained because it’s now “our” money. I hate how any decision, whether it be to do with the boys/house/money/work has to be made as some kind of team – even though we both know that in the end I’m always right. I hate how our arguments have went from what pub we’re going to, to what toilet paper I buy (and which he uses far too much of!)

But know what I hate most of all?

The rapid expansion of my waist/backside/face the minute that ring was put on  my already rather voluptuous finger.

Bloody men. Bloody marriage.

Bloody chocolate.

8 pictures...10 years

8 pictures…10 years

The Southside Girl x

Heartfelt Acts…sort of.

“Love is not who you see yourself with, it is who you cannot see yourself without” -Unknown

During a quiet (ok, lazy) day yesterday, I managed to get some time to read through a few blogs that had been recommended to me on Twitter. One of these was ‘Cupcake Mumma’ and her post on “Heartfelt Acts”. What she did, was to leave 5 random notes of love or affirmation in different public places. So, in a typical lazy Fiona way, I have decided to leave my notes to 5 different people who have had an impact on my life, via this blog. This is my version of “Heartfelt Acts”.

I will not be naming names but I will initial them – because most of the people who these are about, in the nicest possible way, are either too young or not very good  at taking a hint ;).

My Heartfelt Notes

For A & L – You make me smile every day. I love you both more than I ever thought was possible. You are my reason for getting up in the morning and you make me happier than I have ever known.  

For SYou are more amazing than you give yourself credit for. You can do anything you want to in life – you just have to believe in yourself. I love you like a sister – but i hate that you give yourself a hard time, when really, you’re the strongest person I’ve ever met.

For  M – More than anything or anyone, I want you to be happy.

For D – No matter what I say or do, or however many arguments we have… I love you. Sometimes, I cannot stand to be around you. Sometimes, I’m scared I’m going to go too far and say something I’ll regret. Sometimes though, I think that’s what you need. But always know, that I really do love you.

For P – You are my best friend. You are my soul mate and even after 10 years, I still fall in love with you more each day. I love that no one realises how funny you are and that there are times where you make my cry from laughing. You are the hardest working person i’ve ever met  and an absolutely amazing daddy. You are also the grumpiest person, I think, in the entire world, but your all round handsome-ness and muscly thighs cancel out that negative. You really are my everything.

What would your random notes say? Feel free to leave your own note in the comments section.

To read Cupcake Mumma’s blog, you can find it here : http://cupcakemumma2011.blogspot.co.uk/search?updated-max=2013-03-29T03:40:00-07:00&max-results=10

To find out more about ‘Heartfelt Acts’, visit EmmyMom’s blog here: http://www.emmymom2.com/2013/01/introducing-heart-felt-acts.html


The Southside Girl x

Dear Me : A letter to my 16 year old self….

This world is so confusing but you’re gonna be just fine.”  -George Watsky

Dear Me,

1  You’re 16. You do not always know best and you’re not always right. Yes, really.

2. Double denim is never a good look. I know your denim jacket is from Topshop… but it will weld itself to your skin if you don’t give it a break.

3. Be nicer to your mum. I know she moans about the state of your room a lot, but just wait until you have a whole house to clean – then you can moan! The same goes for when she gives you the “You use this house like a hotel” speech – listen to her. She’s right.

4. Despite what your mum tells you, your boobs aren’t going to get any bigger. Invest in a good padded bra. Your bum, on the other hand, is going to get huge so maybe start on the squats now.

5. It’s alright not to know what you want to do with your life – don’t stress about it.

6. Overly blonde highlights and black eyebrows are something you NEVER want to repeat. So don’t. On the same note – stop using a razor on your eyebrows. They’ll never grow in properly ever again.

7. Be there for Shaz. She’s the one person who has been there for you forever.  Plus, she’s the one who’s going to look after you on the first night you get stupidly drunk…And throw up all over her house. Bad Fiona.

8. When you start Uni, try to steer clear of the Union…it’s all a downhill spiral from there!

9. Might be a good idea to steer clear of Ashleigh’s parties too – don’t ask why. Just don’t go.

10. Drink more water! And maybe start moisturising properly. Your skin looks like crap.

11. Learn how to deal with money and start saving up – trust me, you’ll need it!

12. Start your driving lessons and DONT GIVE UP HALF WAY THROUGH! I don’t care if you lose your glasses – buy new ones!

13. Maybe start going to the gym – turns out 11 stone isn’t all that healthy! Who knew?!

14. See when you’re 18 – go travelling! You’ll thank me in the long run.

15. Be happy. You don’t know how good you’ve got it.

16. See that boy you’ve just met? The one that got you the really crappy birthday card? Be nice to him. You’re going to marry him. You lucky thing 😉

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What would you tell your 16-year-old self?

The Southside Girl x